Having "aaarrrggghh" moments with your beloved son or daughter? Granted, parenting is not easy at times. In my life there were seasons where the part I most enjoyed about being a parent was at night, when our children were sleeping!
Once they woke up, the whole struggle started all over again. My biggest frustration was not knowing how to make them do what was required of them. Bad attitudes and indifference were issues I struggled with daily.
Sure, I could force them to comply, but that is all I got: compliance. This is a very subtle form of rebellion we should never accept in our children.
Reading books about homeschooling did not help either. They frustrated me even more. These moms had superkids. Love of Learning? Children getting up early to finish their math assignment? Happily reading and writing? What on earth was wrong with my children? Or could it possibly be me doing something wrong?
This was years ago, when we started homeschooling our children. Thankfully God was merciful and taught me a lot throughout our homeschooling years. Today I also have superkids who love learning, and I want to share with you 7 fatal mistakes me and my husband were making that were killing our children's motivation.
1.- Forcing them to reach a certain level he or she just is not ready for yet. This is very frustrating for a child, because it makes him or her experience failure over and over again. Eventually the child will give up trying.
2.-The very structured parent decides what the child is going to learn without respecting the individual area of interest the child has.
3.- Failing to create good habits. Once we teach our children good habits, they'll keep on working on auto-pilot without us having to control them all the time.
4.- Not allowing enough time to play. Most parents do not have trouble in recognizing the importance of structured learning, but they underestimate how much a child learns by "just" playing.
5.- Self-indulgence. It is natural for a parent to want to bless his child, but some overdo it. Giving them all they want whenever they want it will eventually produce a perpetually bored child that can not enjoy the simple things of life.
6.- Lack of identification. God is constantly clue-ing us in about the talents and gifts our children have. One of the most important roles of the parent is that of identifying these gifts, and helping the child develop them successfully.
7.- Lack of praise. Our children yearn for our acknowledgment for everything they do. They so want to please us. This is one of the most powerful tools a parent has to motivate his or her child.
The goal of every good education should be that of teaching a child to educate himself. Once a child has mastered the art of self-directed learning, he will love learning and you will be able to lean back, cross your arms and enjoy your child's progress.
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