Positive Parenting

There is always a choice to look at your children through the eyes of love.

We always have a choice. It may be much more apparent to us at one time versus another. Our perceptions of our situation and environment often filter our ability to see as clearly as possible.

Bringing in positive energy to your child is a gift. When we choose to understand our child versus judging and making assumptions about her / him, it gives a child freedom to blossom as an individual. Understanding your child is respectful to both you and your child. A child who feels understood is willing to take healthy risks which will in turn facilitate positive growth.

For example, if your son / daughter forgets to bring homework to school and is scolded for not remembering, this creates shame. Shame diminishes how you feel about yourself. On the other hand, you can take the time to ask questions in a loving, open, manner as to what happened. Your child knows that you truly want to understand (not judge), and will hear with more accepting ears. This creates the opportunity to learn about oneself and enable a more honest exchange between parent and child.

You are empowering your child to make positive choices for himself / herself. It is extremely freeing to let go of the fear of making a mistake – this is attainable when one knows that they will be understood by their parent / s.

To illustrate another aspect of choice, how about the possibility of choice when it comes to "patience" and "impatience". You have to be somewhere at a specific time and your kids have no interest in cooperating with the necessity to be out the door. You have two choice – you can create an atmosphere of patience or impatience. With patience resistance is dissipated at a much faster rate. Impatience creates resistance which results in either more time spent or more stress in the moment and residually.

You can walk out of the door with your kids in the midst of much drama and anxiety (which will carry over in transit) OR you can make the choice to come from a quiet, accepting place. As you stand your ground from a place of inner strength while remaining soft in your demeanor, this steady centered presence will create space for your child to settle down and peace will be closer at hand for all.

Impatience is not accepting the present moment as it truly is and wanting it to be something other than it is. This in turn creates stress not only for parents, but for our children as well.

HAVE LESS STRESS … MORE JOY NOW!

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